Why You Might Have Been "Too Much" for Your Ex

• Your intelligence.

• Your success.

• Your career.

• Your presence.

• Your dedication to the relationship.

• Your emotional depth.

• Your ability to dream big.

• Your unwillingness to settle for mediocrity.

• Their fear of not being enough.

• Their deep-rooted insecurities.

• Their childhood wounds.

• Their deep-seated feelings of unworthiness.

Sometimes, no matter how much you give - your love, patience, and effort it’s still not enough to make the relationship last. And it’s not because you lacked anything. It’s because they couldn’t rise to meet you.

To make matters harder, they might have jumped into a rebound relationship. You might find yourself wondering: “Why are they trying to make it work with someone else?” 

The truth is, it’s not about the new person being “better.” It’s often that they feel less threatened; perhaps because that person feels smaller, less intimidating, or less challenging to their sense of self.

And that’s not your burden to carry.

Let them seek comfort in a version of life that feels easier to navigate. Let them settle for what feels safe, even if it’s less fulfilling.

Because the truth is, you are not too much. You are exactly as you’re meant to be. You are brilliant, bold, and beautifully whole. Their inability to meet you where you are does not define your worth.

Your light didn’t dim their worthiness; it only shined a spotlight on the wounds they were unwilling to face. Their choice doesn’t reflect your value. It reflects their limits and inability to be alone. 

So let them stay where they feel comfortable while you keep growing into everything you’re meant to be. Because someone, somewhere, will see all of you and know they are lucky to rise to your level.

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Lisa Angelini, MAPC, LPC, ACCHT 

Holistic Psychotherapist and Coach

602-330-6378