Corrective Experiences

I never thought I could be artistic as I failed art in 7th grade. For some reason, the art teacher did not take a liking to me. He would stand behind me and in disgust, utter grunts and shout “No!” He never taught me what to do differently and I  never painted again.  

My daughters unknowingly provided a “corrective experience” for me on Mother's Day and gave me a Bob Ross painting party at home. Low and behold with a little instruction I painted! I won’t be an artist, but what fun! 

There are opportunities for corrective experiences if you pay attention.  I once had a boyfriend who grew up in a violently abusive household and  had terrible trauma memories at the holidays. He didn’t celebrate, get together with family, or even have a Christmas dinner. After learning this, I wanted to provide a corrective experience for him. Even though I was away from home, I  managed to acquire a Christmas tree. Although old and shabby, it was the thought and love behind the gesture. I had so much fun and decided to make it a “tacky” Christmas theme. I joyously planned the holiday meals and gifts. We hung decorations, decorated the tree and played Christmas music. The cookies and sweets were baked and enjoyed. We opened gifts and started new traditions of our own. Most of all, I provided the unconditional love without expectation of anything in return.

My wish for you is that you are mindfully present in your life and pause to think of how you can provide corrective experiences for others and yourself.

#innerchildhealing #relationaltrauma #correctiveexperience #traumahealing 

Lisa Angelini,MAPC, LPC, ACCHT 

Holistic Psychotherapist and Coach

602-330-6378